Diary of a broken heart

This post is dedicated to everyone who is going through difficult matters of the heart. Allow me to share my personal experience, and the things I have learned in love. :p

#charaught #charing #echos #brokenheartyourface #blackfriday

It’s been how long? 10 months? One year, two years?uhmmmm…technically, it has been four years, yes., four years when I have had my heart broken for the first time. (well, my heart is more than fine now). But it wasn’t as easy and simple like that. It was complicated. It was hard. It was exhausting I felt like I almost died. (sounds exaggerated? yeah. but that’s the perfect word to describe how it feels) when I was broken hearted, I found myself overly sensitive and emotional. I cried over simple things, there’s an instant tear when a love song’s being played. I can’t go to work. I can’t think. I can’t function well. It’s just my heart that was broken, but my whole being felt the pain. Until weeks, and months of wallowing passed, I finally decided to go out and face the reality. I have to continue my life, I have to fulfil the dreams we have built, even it means doing it alone. It’s when I started to have my interest in reading. I spend most of my available time reading articles, columns, self-help books, name it I have read it, I sucked on it.

Well having said that all, I have listed a few things that actually helped me to get through that one of the hardest phase of my simple and not so interesting life. I hope this would help your heart, or of someone you know.

On advice

When we’re broken hearted, no advice said to us will make us feel better. none. as in. nothing. Whatever it is, it has no effect. When we’re broken hearted, the only thing we think will make us feel better is when that someone who tore our heart apart will come knockin’ on our door and will say that he was wrong, and that he finally realized what kind of an ass he had been to ever broke up with you. But they won’t. (okay, well maybe some will, but believe me, most of them won’t). Hugs will comfort you. Messages of support from your friends will make you smile. But there’s no amount of advice will make you feel better. Unless! Unless you let it make you feel better. Don’t be pressured though to follow everyone’s advice. It is still you who will decide on which way you want to go. Surely, hundreds of saying and clichés will be thrown at you in an attempt to make you feel better (but not all of it actually helps, some even make it worse) but for sure, there’s always the best words that will speak to you and touch your heart, soothe your soul. Those pieces of advice you hold on to.

On prayer

A broken heart will wake up some days so unbelievably hopeless, wanting to just stay in bed all day (I did) some even will go all out in saying they want to die (yes, I did too, but just to myself at least.Aand of course we don’t really want to die right? :p ) there are times, a broken heart will wake up fine and peaceful, but with a minor fear that anytime they may encounter something that day that will bring back all the pain. Whatever mood a broken heart wakes up in. one thing remains. It is a broken heart. This may sound cliché to some, but there is only one thing that can heal anything broken, our Lord. When your heart is peaceful, give thanks. When your heart is troubled, still give thanks and ask for relief. When your heart is shattered into a million pieces, still give thanks. Because one thing is for sure, God only works for the good of those who love Him.

On moving on

Don’t be pressured! For some it takes weeks, for some, months. for some, years! of course no one likes the pain that a broken heart brings. (its pain like no other!) but, you have to go through it. There is no short cut, there is no other way. Go through it. Go and let it out. Cry before you sleep, cry when you wake up, cry in the bathroom, cry to your friends. Lock yourself in the room, stay in bed all day, don’t talk to anyone for hours, make emo all you want. Do it all. Don’t let anybody stop you. (but don’t let it get in the way of school or work or the things you have to do either! okay? okay.) Feel all those yucky, disgusting, heart-shattering feelings, put it in a box, and one day, when you are ready, throw it out the window. It will happen for you. I know right at this moment you feel it won’t, that the day you will be okay will never come, but it will. Have faith, it will. Give time, time. Nobody said it would be easy, but nobody said it will never be okay either, and that you will be alone.

All this I share with pure sincerity from the bottom of my happy heart, to your soon-to-be happy heart! :)

LOve&Light ♥ ♥ ♥

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A Review

Incubus was formed in southern California by high school friends Brandon Boyd (vocals), Michael Einziger (guitar),JosePasillasII(drums)andAlex “Dirk Lance” Katunich (bass). They later added turntabilist DJ Lyfe to the lineup after he sawthemliveandasked to join. 

After playing various shows at private and school parties and recording several demo tapes, Incubus releasedtheirfirstalbumFungusAmongus in 1995. The album had a hard rock sound with major elements of funk andjazz,whichdevelopedfurther with their followingalbumS.C.I.E.N.C.E.in 1997. After the release ofS.C.I.E.N.C.E.,Incubusreplaced DJ Lyfewith DJ Chris Kilmore due to creativedifferences. The 1999 album Make Yourselfmarked akindofbreakthrough for theband, as they got more and more popular (mostlybecause of the song Drive, which had a lotofairplay).Building off thesuccess of their previous album, Incubus released Morning Viewin2001, an album that wasmuchmellowerthan theirprevious releases. 

At the end of 2003, Incubus announced that bassist Dirk Lance had been replaced byformer Roots guitaristBenKenney,whichultimatelyleadto the creation of their new sound. After a creative pause, they released A Crow LeftOfTheMurder,which sounded nothing like anyprevious material released. After doing their first world tour in2004,Incubusworked on variousmaterial throughout 2005. In 2006,Incubus released their 5th studio albumLightGrenades,which tookthe band’s soundto a different approach, yet again. Incubussupported their latest album with the liveDVD LookAlive,which featured manysongs off Light Grenades and other recent works.Their latest studio album, IfNot Now,When?,released in 2011,softened down the sound of Incubus that many fans missed.


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I strongly believe that Brandon Boyd should be in the list. Anyway among these hot lead vocals, Anthony Kiedis of Red Hot Chili Peppers, Adam Levine of Maroon 5 and Dave Grohl of Foo Fighters are my favorite.


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How to Wear Jeans This Summer

My winter jeans wardrobe is extensive. And by extensive I mean full to overflowing. Yes, I have my favourites, many of which have been featured in outfits here on the blog.

But what about now? As the temperature heats up around the country and in some parts has hit sweltering proportions. Can we still wear jeans for summer?

It’s a question that I’ve had two readers ask me in a matter of days so I’m taking a little punt that it’s a sign that many of you may have the same question as well.

In short, I say yes. Especially this particular summer.

Why this summer?

Because there are a few key denim trends made for warmer months and they’re currently working their way into stores and potentially into our wardrobes.

1. Light-wash denim is everywhere. It just seems more summer friendly, doesn’t it? Visually it looks like summer and it won’t absorb as much heat as wearing a darker denim.

2. The boyfriend style is in full flight. I dipped my legs into this trend in this post. Will I dip again? Most probably yes I will.

3. Jeans are earning their street cred with everything from a little distressing through to big gaping holes that show more leg than what they cover. Some of these jeans are best left to sweet, young, (hopefully faux) tanned thingsI’m a little envious of their access to the cross-ventilation effect of said holes but I’ll stick to covering my legs with just a minor distress on the side.

4.  Chambray pants are a lightweight denim alternative. If you live in a climate similar to me, these will be your summer friends. They’re not technically jeans but by virtue of their colour I’m putting these pants in the jean category. The softer the chambray or cotton the better.

5.  Capri pants allow you to embrace the trend without the holes and heat-restricting qualities of full-length jeans. You know my thoughts on the wide-legged 3/4 pant but when a capri pant tapers at the ankle, I’m all over that style for its lower leg flattering qualities – in a flash.


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